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I don’t mean YOU & I need to talk… we are good ;-)… I just mean to EACH OTHER!

If we can not talk, we can not share. If we can not share… the BURDENS of this world will EVENTUALLY become TOO MUCH for even the strongest of us to handle… If we do not share the burdens, stresses, and problems this world eagerly provides, we will break. It is simple. I don’t care how BADASS you are and how much “you don’t need anyone.” False! Whether you are a BADASS human or not, you are STILL a human… and humans NEED to “connect”… and not this BS social media, texting, I know you and what you are up to in life because I follow you on Instagram… NO! REAL, DEEP, MEANINGFUL, & BENEFICIAL CONNECTIONS that can help us alleviate stress, gain perspective, deepen bonds, and heal our souls.

This is where I might lose the women, but this is a very specific situation I recently experienced. One of my best friends and I play tennis together about three times a week. To get to the courts where we meet our other two friends is about a 20 minute drive… 20 minutes is A LOT of time! Time that we can CHOOSE to fill HOWEVER WE WANT… and yet…

I am suffering… this time in my life is difficult. Some stages of life are just like that… but the thing that is REALLY CRAZY to me is my friend KNOWS what is happening. He WANTS to ask questions and know what is the “latest” and just simply check-in to see how I am doing… and I WANT to share. I NEED someone to listen and maybe just help me carry a little of the weight and pick me up a bit when things get to be too much. For the last few weeks, EVERY CAR RIDE TO TENNIS we have HAD THE OPPORTUNITY to TALK & LISTEN… about REAL THINGS, HURTFUL THINGS, about things we could really use the help and support a friend can offer… and we HAVEN’T TAKEN ADVANTAGE!

We HAVE talked about everything BUT the things we REALLY NEED to talk about…

What I have noticed about this is I don’t think we ACTUALLY KNOW how to talk to each other about things that are hurting us. As men, talking about pain and suffering and the fact that life is kinda beating us down at the moment is antithetical to everything WE ARE as men… at least what society EXPECTS us to be. “Talking about a weakness is admitting a weakness.” Maybe it IS… and THAT IS SCARY… I get it… to “admit to” any weakness is NOT a good look… BUT… I just want to write these last words.

Men, we GOTTA figure out ways to talk to each other! I KNOW we are all suffering and I also KNOW we could help each other… but we GOTTA first figure out how to begin!